When unexpected circumstances occur or things do not go to plan, we often find ourselves in unfamiliar territory and things that once seemed normal, become overwhelming and knock any confidence of normality we once had. The shock can put us in a whirlwind of emotions that are way out of our ordinary rationalizing. It can destroy confidence within ourselves, in the trust of others, and/or even the outside world. The external influences have created a change in the process of our thinking strategy and the simple tasks that once were, now seem no longer applicable, as our confidence has been crushed, dismantled and destroyed.
Getting this into perspective is important to restore it. Whether it is losing loved ones, breakdown in relationships, sickness, job loss, financial problems, feelings of disrespectful behaviour, betrayal, being isolated on your own, or a mixture of these, it is essential to try and accept situations and work with them, rather than fight them. Everything will pass, as we customise to the new situation and work through it. Other people may advise you to do things beyond what you feel you can cope with at the time. You don’t have to do fully what may be advised, but you can do it in stages and in your time, rather than completely avoiding the situation. Face the new challenges with calm and ease. Brace the fears to try and restore the confidence in both yourself and with the outside world.
The mind, body and soul all work in conjunction with each other, to make us the person that we are. An example of this is when we believe we are strong in our mind, we can apply this strength to the physical activity that we want to do and achieve. It is about believing in oneself, the positive mindset in having the power to take on the difficult task. It may mean you have to build up the strength to deal with it fully, but just working on it and then going for it with full charge, you know there is the possibility of achieving the desired outcome.
Another example is that by simply looking good on the outside, makes you feel good on the inside, and if you feel good on the inside, you feel you have the confidence and more of a chance to go out and get what you want. The classic examples of these are getting ready or dressing for a job, interview, meeting or even a date.
It is actually a cycle in the form of power of thought, process, belief and act. Thinking, believing in yourself and acting upon it.
Restore your confidence by believing in yourself. You know you have the strength and resilience to deal with everything; The mind and body were designed for this. Prepare yourself like a top athlete with mind strength, focus on your desired goal – you want to win this. Put it into action by achieving body strength, work on it regularly to gain strength and courage as you prepare to go in and win.
Do things to give you power. Make yourself feel and look good, for you! Power dress if you need do – a boxer wears boxing boots, a footballer wears football boots – neither would wear skiing boots or roller skates, they would not give them the confidence to move safely, freely and with confidence to achieve their ambition.
Do things that make you feel good and happy. Pamper yourself be it with food, drink, luxuries, exercise, music, dance, reading, watching a movie, educational programmes, learning new things, speaking with others – all these things can give you empowerment as they are good for your mind, body and soul. It is like investing in a collection box and building up as a reserve source of energy to be used.
Try to keep a self-respectful dignity, even when on your own. Make everything as luxurious as possible for you to have maximum enjoyment. Prepare foods and drinks that you enjoy, and serve up with style, as though you were at a restaurant.
Dress to impress yourself, not others. Wear beautiful things and colours that reflect and remind you of your usual, fun, bubbly self. Dress for dinner, even if you are at home alone. Dining for one, like a prince or princess in luxury, will do wonders for self-esteem.
Exercise in order to build strength and stamina. Keep up a good fitness level for those natural endorphins to kick in and make you feel that natural, high, feel good section. Exercise will also give a healthy glow.
Speak with others regularly. Speak with people you love, respect and admire. People who have good judgement and opinions that you can rely on. The people that genuinely love and care for you, who really want the best for you. Take on their thoughts, filter through what you feel is right for you and utilise this in action to your benefit and achieve a good outcome.
Do what you love to do, as you keep investing in yourself and your self-worth. When you feel you have spent enough time and effort to build up the resources, get ready to show and embrace the newly charged and strong you, ready to face those problems with a new vigour and source.
Love and Sparkles
Samsara x
